So what does it mean to own your identity? What does the word identity even mean?
I’ve looked up a lot of definitions of the word identity over the years but my favorite comes from Merriam-Webster’s definition:
“The distinguishing character or personality of an individual.”
So if one is to “own their distinguishing character or personality” what does that entail? For me, owning my identity means embracing it, expressing it proudly and simply not giving a fuck what anyone thinks about it. That doesn’t mean I enjoy criticism or don’t take it under consideration when I feel it’s constructive but owning my identity means I’m going to make mistakes, choices, preferences BUT I’m not going to feel shame about them. I’m going to wear my feathers proudly, I’m going to admit when I fuck up or do something embarrassing, and most importantly I’m not going to apologize for doing what makes me me! I like distinguishing myself from others, it gives me internal strength and confidence.